The most common reason for this particular behavior of a child is that they know if they behave in a particular way (like showing tantrums or sitting quietly), it will solve their problem or somebody will fulfill their demands.Parents in the current scenario are becoming overindulgent and keeping their child happy has become a goal.
This leads the parent provide for the child’s demands and to pamper the child. It becomes a habit for a child to use the ‘tantrum’ to get attention from the parent and get their way out. As a parent we need to learn to deal with the tantrums of a child.
Parents have to look and observe the family environment. Notice that if any family members talk like this or you, as a parent, respond the child in this way. Children are keen observer and they learn things from his/her environment.
Share your feeling with the child. Tell him how you feel (may be sad, unhappy, alone, etc) when he doesn’t talk to you.;Also, ask him why he is behaving in this manner? Prepare yourself before talking to the child and listen to the child in a non-judgmental way without any preconceived notions.
Finally be straight and tell the child that this behavior is not acceptable and he/she will not get what he/she wants through this route. And in case they want something they need to ask for it in a manner directly without this tantrum. As a parent you would need to be stern to not give-in to the tantrum or else the cycle of fulfilling the demand and tantrum would start again.
Written by Chanchal Gupta, Parwarish Institute of Parenting Pvt. Ltd.
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